Doa Pendekat Jodoh

Dari buku Ikhtiar Penyembuhan Penyakit Dato' Dr.Haron Din. Selamat beramal. InsyaAllah:)

Mengambil hati kawan-kawan dan keluarga si dia

Dalam suatu hubungan yang penting hanyalah kamu dan dia. Tapi dalam dunia yang nyata, kita tidak hidup berdua...semua orang yang berkait dengan si dia akan mempunyai pandangan tersendiri tentang kamu, samada baik atau tidak. Dan hanya dengan 1 pendapat negatif sahaja boleh menyebabkan masalah. Ini antara tips yang anda boleh guna untuk menjadi 'si dia' yang di sukai / di terima oleh kawan2 dan famili dia.

1. BFF (best friend forever) dia
Apa yang bff dia risaukan: awak mungkin seorang loser atau jerk macam yang lepas. BFF dia akan perasan dengan cepat kalau anda sama saja macam loser boyfriend(s) dia yang lepas-lepas. Mungkin dia menjauhkan diri untuk berkenalan atau memberi pendapat/sokongan terhadap anda.
Penyelesaian: Cuba jadi kawan kepadanya - dan jadilah kawan yang benar.Ambil tahu tentang masalah kawannya....berikan pendapat  yang bertimbang rasa dan jujur.Dengar dengan baik apabila mereka bercerita tentang lelaki losers mereka pernah jumpa. Anda boleh dapat tahu dan mengelak untuk tersenarai dalam kategori lelaki-lelaki losers yang mereka kenal.

2. EX dia yang mesra
Apa yang ex dia risaukan: dia akan dilupakan. Perjumpaan minum kopi yang sekali sekala akan tidak ada lagi dan akan tertumpu pada anda sahaja, menambahkan lagi kerisauan yang ex dia sendiri mungkin tidak perasan.
Penyelesaian: Kebolehan si dia untuk berkawan dengan seseorang yang dia pernah mempunyai hubungan menunjukkan dia matang - jadi janganlah  menunjukkan anda begitu curiga kerana ia akan menunjukkan yang anda jealous tak kena tempat dan tidak berkeyakinan. Buatlah ex dia rasa seperti dia sebahagian dari hidup si dia tanpa perlu adanya exnya bersama. Kalau anda terserempak di mana2, act relax dan casual tak perlu nak lari pecut 100m atau bermasam muka. Dengan cara ini anda menunjukkan yang anda tidak rasa tergugat tentang hubungan anda dan si dia.

3.Mak dia
Apa yang mak dia risaukan: kamu dekati dia dan melukakan hatinya
Penyelesaian: Kalau harijadi si dia dekat atau ada ada sesuatu yang akan diraikan (kenaikan pangkat dll) rancangkan lah dengan ibunya untuk menyambut hari tersebut. 'Baiknya budak ni' ;)

4. Bapa dia
Apa yang bapa dia risaukan: kamu tak boleh bagikan kehidupan yang sepatutnya dia dapat. Walaupun si dia ada pekerjaan/karier yang baik, seorang bapa akan sentiasa risau samada anak perempuannya di jaga dengan baik.
Penyelesaian: Jangan cerita pasal gaji atau berapa banyak wang anda miliki dari hasil pekerjaan anda sekarang. Ceritalah tentang pelaburan jangka masa lama seperti rumah, kalau bapanya masih bekerja tanyakan tentang apakah persediaan dia untuk persaraan. Selain memuji bapanya anda juga menunjukkan bahawa anda seorang yang bertanggung jawab tentang soalan kewangan yang memikirkan tentang masa hadapan.

Update mixer 15.7.2012

Mixer kali ni di Penang Village, Alamanda Putrajaya kali ni tak ramai yang datang sebab ramai yang cancel last minute atas urusan kerja, kesihatan dan macam2 lagi (yang sakit semoga cepat sembuh!). Ini antara mereka yang datang...seronok betul, siap posing ambil gambar lagi.

Sempena Ramadhan yang semakin hampir,kami ingin mengucapkan selamat berpuasa, semoga Ramadan ini menjadi Ramadan yang lebih bagus dari yang lepas untuk kita semua. Tiada perjumpaan singles akan diadakan sepanjang Ramadhan, perjumpaan seterusnya akan diadakan insyaAllah pada bulan Syawal nanti. Selamat berpuasa!

Singles Mixer/Gathering 15th July

Next mixer/gathering will be at Penang Village, Alamanda, Putrajaya.
Date: 15.7.2012, Sunday
Time: 3.30pm-6.30pm
Fee: RM60 (inclusive of f&b)

Rasulullah SAW as a husband

The Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was the perfect head of family. Managing many wives with ease, being a lover of their hearts, an instructor of their minds, an educator of their souls, he never neglected the affairs of the nation nor compromised his duties. This is a clear proof of his prophethood. If this were the only proof, it would have been enough.

Such was the eminence of our blessed Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam that he managed to live a life of great happiness with wives of different ages, temperaments, family backgrounds and differing levels of intellect. All his wives but Hadhrat Aa'ishah ( R.A.) were widows, taking this into account all had very good mutual relations and endured an extremely contented life as members of his auspicious household.

The Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam treated his wives equally and they in return loved him infinitely; each wife doing her utmost to please him. This was a household who lived in happiness with the others.

The blessed Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was scrupulous in maintaining perfect equality amongst his wives as far as it was in his power. He visited them on their appointed turns, as far as possible with absolute justice and integrity. He made no distinction concerning the matters of worldly provision and needs. As far as human emotions and feelings of love and affection are concerned even the greatest man, the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had no control over them, and so the Prophet clearly loved Hadhrat Aa'ishah ( R.A.) more than his other wives. This exceeding love of one wife did not lead to the neglect or lack of love for the remaining wives. The Almighty has mentioned this weakness of man in the following words :

" It is not within your power to be perfectly equitable in your treatment with all your wives, even if you wish to be so; therefore, do not lean wholly towards one wife so as to leave the others in a state of suspense. If you behave righteously and fear Allah, you will find Allah Forgiving and Merciful." ( 4 : 129 )

From the above it is made clear that a husband cannot wholly and literally maintain his affections equally amongst his wives, even if it is his greatest wish to do so, as the wives themselves cannot be equal in respect of the qualities they possess. Thus, the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would seek Allah's pardoning for any unintentional leanings. He would make this prayer : " I may have unintentionally shown more love to one of them than the others and this would have been injustice. So, "Oh Lord, I take refuge in your grace for those things which are beyond my power." Even so, each of his wives, because of his generosity and kindness, felt she was his most beloved.

Taken from inter-islam.org

Singles Mixer @ Delicious, Marc Residence 17.6.2012

Siapa yang nak join singles mixer/ gathering, we will be having one tomorrow kat Delicious, Marc Residence @ Jln Pinang, belakang KLCC je. Check out link ni untuk info tempat http://www.thedeliciousgroup.com/#location_marcresidence siapa yg familiar area KLCC rasanya tak boleh miss Jln Pinang ni, dia sederet dgn The Ascott, 7ate9, KL Convention Centre etc.

Kalau anda berminat untuk join berkenalan mereka yg singles, boleh contact Maya 0176116432 atau text kalau tak dapat or email maya@findmychemistry.com untuk reservation/tempahan tempat. Harga RM60 seorang termasuk tea set. See you there!

GPS coordinates: 3.157051,101.710361

At the mixer 17.6.12

Our 5 top internet dating don'ts

1. Don't put a photo that doesn't look like you now or a flattering photo you took ages ago.
2.Do not bother with people who doesn't reply you or ignore you. Move on.
3. Don't go for appearance alone. Go for what suits you. Read her or his profile, read the way they write or express themselves.
4. Do not ignore early weirdo, desperate signals.
5. Don't tell what you are not. If you want to meet smart people then you shouldn't be bullshitting them and they will pay the same respect to you.

Good luck!